Your Words, Your Power: Build a Divorce Position Statement to Anchor the Deal
In this video, Melissa Gragg—financial mediator and valuation expert—walks you through the most important tool you’ve likely never heard of: your DIVORCE POSITION STATEMENT. This one-to-two-page summary isn’t just paperwork—it’s your voice, your strategy, and your anchor in negotiations.
In this must-watch tutorial, Melissa breaks down:
What a divorce position statement is — and why it’s the first and most strategic move in any settlement process.
How to use voice memos + ChatGPT to document your story and convert it into a powerful legal and financial tool.
The step-by-step process of building your timeline, identifying the top 3 legal or financial issues, and drafting a calm, professional summary.
How this one document guides your lawyer, your mediator, and even the judge if needed—while saving you time, money, and emotional chaos.
Real talk on what to include, what not to say, and how to position yourself as the voice of reason in a high-conflict situation.
If you're trying to gain clarity, keep costs low, and take your power back in this process—this is the starting point. This is how you begin to “Anchor the Deal”.
Step 1: Journal Your Story
Goal: Capture key moments from marriage to now.
When did you get married?
When did you separate?
When did key financial events occur (buying/selling a home, inheritance, business start, job loss)?
Were there any infidelities or major breaches of trust?
ChatGPT Prompt:
"Summarize this journal into a divorce timeline with financial and legal milestones."
Join the Membership to gain access to the workshop where we guide you through the process to develop a divorce position statement and you can ask questions to the professionals every week.
In this workshop - you’ll learn how to:
Tell your full divorce story using a simple voice memo (no writing needed yet!)
Turn that raw, emotional narrative into a clear, fact-based timeline using ChatGPT
Identify your top 3 financial and legal issues
Create a calm, strategic summary that guides your attorney, mediator, and legal team
Lay the foundation for a powerful and well-supported settlement offer
This isn’t just a document—it’s your blueprint for leading the divorce process on your terms.
🎧 Want to go deeper? Join the Divorce Allies Circle for the full live workshop + checklist workbook.
🔗 Download the free Position Statement Starter Guide
📅 Join our live Circle session every Monday at 10AM CT
📲 Subscribe for new episodes that combine financial strategy, negotiation psychology, and healing support for women navigating divorce.
Divorce isn’t just a legal process-it’s a negotiation. And you’re more capable than you think.
If you’ve been told you’re crazy, overreacting, not smart enough, or not worth listening to-this guide is for you. Because those are the very messages that keep people stuck, afraid to speak up, and disconnected from their own power.
But here’s the truth: you can negotiate a fair settlement. You can advocate for yourself. And you don’t need to know everything to get started-you just need to begin.
In this guide, we are going to show you how to negotiate your own settlement offer-even when you’re still gathering information or facing a high-conflict spouse.
This guide is about creating your own settlement options, and why making the first offer (yes, even before you hire a lawyer or go to court) can dramatically shift the outcome of your case.
“Your Words, Your Power: Build a Divorce Position Statement to Anchor the Deal”
1. What is a divorce position statement and why is it important?
A divorce position statement is a one-to-two-page written summary of your marriage timeline, key issues, and financial facts. It provides a calm, fact-based narrative that helps your attorney, mediator, and even the judge understand your situation. It anchors your negotiation strategy and ensures your voice is central in the settlement process.
2. How do I start creating a divorce position statement?
Start by recording your full story using a voice memo—from the moment you met your spouse to the current challenges. Include dates, events, red flags, and financial details. Then, use ChatGPT to summarize your narrative, extract your top three legal or financial issues, and draft your initial statement.
4. Can I use AI tools like ChatGPT to help write my divorce statement?
Yes! ChatGPT can help summarize your voice memo into a clear, unemotional timeline, identify your top issues, and even generate an outline of your settlement position. You remain the expert of your story—AI simply helps organize it.
5. Should I write the divorce statement myself or ask my attorney to do it?
You should write it yourself. No one knows your story better than you. By preparing your own position statement, you save legal fees, maintain control of the narrative, and present yourself as a well-prepared, reasonable negotiator in mediation.
6. How does this position statement help in mediation or court?
This document gets your entire legal team aligned and helps the mediator quickly grasp your case. It builds trust, sets the tone for productive negotiation, and shows that you’re organized and strategic. It can also be updated over time to reflect new developments or evidence.
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Melissa Gragg is a seasoned financial mediator and business valuation expert with over 20 years of experience. She specializes in helping couples and business partners navigate complex financial disputes during divorce and separation. As the founder of Bridge Valuation Partners and a key member of The Divorce Allies, Melissa offers neutral, third-party services including business valuations, pension assessments, income analysis, and strategic settlement planning.
The Divorce Allies is a collaborative network of professionals dedicated to providing comprehensive support during the divorce process. Their team includes experts in financial mediation, high-conflict divorce coaching, mortgage planning, co-parenting education, and post-divorce transition. Together, they aim to empower individuals with the resources and guidance needed to achieve amicable and informed resolutions.
https://www.valuationmediation.com
https://www.thedivorceallies.com
Connect with Melissa:
Melissa Gragg
Expert testimony for financial and valuation issues
Bridge Valuation Partners, LLC
melissa@bridgevaluation.com
http://www.BridgeValuation.com
Cell: (314) 541-8163
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In this video, Melissa Gragg—financial mediator and valuation expert—walks you through the most important tool you’ve likely never heard of: your divorce position statement. This one-to-two-page summary isn’t just paperwork—it’s your voice, your strategy, and your anchor in negotiations.
Step 1: Journal Your Story Goal: Capture key moments from marriage to now. ChatGPT Prompt: "Summarize this journal into a divorce timeline with financial and legal milestones."
Join the Membership to gain access to the workshop where we guide you through the process to develop a divorce position statement and you can ask questions to the professionals every week. In this workshop - you’ll learn how to: Tell your full divorce story using a simple voice memo (no writing needed yet!) Turn that raw, emotional narrative into a clear, fact-based timeline using ChatGPT Identify your top 3 financial and legal issues Create a calm, strategic summary that guides your attorney, mediator, and legal team Lay the foundation for a powerful and well-supported settlement offer
This isn’t just a document—it’s your blueprint for leading the divorce process on your terms.
🎧 Want to go deeper? Join the Divorce Allies Circle for the full live workshop + checklist workbook. 🔗 Download the free Position Statement Starter Guide 📅 Join our live Circle session every Monday at 10AM CT 📲 Subscribe for new episodes that combine financial strategy, negotiation psychology, and healing support for women navigating divorce. “Your Words, Your Power: Build a Divorce Position Statement to Anchor the Deal”
