Divorce mediation gives you a chance to avoid court and settle major issues—but only if you’re prepared. Many women walk into mediation hoping to "figure it out." That’s not a strategy.
A strategy includes:
A written settlement offer
Clear financial documentation
A plan to handle tough issues like business valuation, marital waste, or custody
If you’re dealing with a toxic ex or controlling spouse, preparation is your only protection.
Start with a full list of:
Assets (bank accounts, home, business interests)
Debts (credit cards, mortgages, loans)
Retirement or investment accounts
💡 Ask your attorney: “Do we have an updated spreadsheet of our assets and debts?”
Ask yourself:
Is there a business that needs valuing?
Are there missing funds or financial abuse?
Is someone claiming separate property?
Are parenting arrangements up for dispute?
List out the 3 most important areas that must be addressed.
This is the most powerful tool you can bring.
Include:
Your top 3 issues
Key facts (ex: $150K moved without consent)
Your ideal outcome and key offers
List of exhibits
Keep it factual, simple, and strategic. This is your leverage document.
Don’t assume your attorney or the mediator will “handle it.”
You are the expert on your own life.
Use the mediator as a tool—not a savior. Give them facts, documents, and direction so they can communicate effectively with the other side.
If you want to walk into mediation confident, calm, and in control, you need a plan—and the tools to build it.
Your DIY Guide to Creating a Strategic Divorce Settlement Offer
This guide includes:
A sample one-page mediation summary
A checklist for asset gathering
Tips to anchor the deal with your own valuation
Negotiation language to use during mediation
Divorce mediation gives you a chance to avoid court and settle major issues—but only if you’re prepared. Many women walk into mediation hoping to "figure it out." That’s not a strategy.
A strategy includes:
A written settlement offer
Clear financial documentation
A plan to handle tough issues like business valuation, marital waste, or custody
If you’re dealing with a toxic ex or controlling spouse, preparation is your only protection.
Start with a full list of:
Assets (bank accounts, home, business interests)
Debts (credit cards, mortgages, loans)
Retirement or investment accounts
💡 Ask your attorney: “Do we have an updated spreadsheet of our assets and debts?”
Ask yourself:
Is there a business that needs valuing?
Are there missing funds or financial abuse?
Is someone claiming separate property?
Are parenting arrangements up for dispute?
List out the 3 most important areas that must be addressed.
This is the most powerful tool you can bring.
Include:
Your top 3 issues
Key facts (ex: $150K moved without consent)
Your ideal outcome and key offers
List of exhibits
Keep it factual, simple, and strategic. This is your leverage document.
Don’t assume your attorney or the mediator will “handle it.”
You are the expert on your own life.
Use the mediator as a tool—not a savior. Give them facts, documents, and direction so they can communicate effectively with the other side.
If you want to walk into mediation confident, calm, and in control, you need a plan—and the tools to build it.
Your DIY Guide to Creating a Strategic Divorce Settlement Offer
This guide includes:
A sample one-page mediation summary
A checklist for asset gathering
Tips to anchor the deal with your own valuation
Negotiation language to use during mediation
